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Nancy Jean Murray Carney

Nancy J.M. Carney died on June 18, 2024, at the age of 76.  After persevering through a lengthy and increasingly difficult battle against cancer, her passing came mercifully quickly and peacefully.  She maintained her toughness, personality and wit until the end, ever an example of strength, endurance, and dogged good humor.

Nancy is survived by her son Darren, his wife Heather, their children Emily, Will and Jack, and her son Neal and his daughters Elizabeth and Abby.  She is also survived by brothers James (Margot), Gary (Sue), and Dean (Kim), and sister Donna (Ken). She was the beloved “Aunt Nancy” to many nieces and nephews and their children as well.

Nancy was born on February 14, 1948, in Chester, Pennsylvania to Bill and Betty Murray.  A Valentine’s Day baby, she enjoyed a lifetime of heart-shaped, pink birthday cakes.  She was a member of the Class of 1966 of Brandywine High School, where she was a talented majorette – her flaming baton practices both thrilled and terrified her siblings!  She received her bachelor’s degree in education from the University of Delaware in 1970 and an MA of Education in Elementary School Counseling in 1975.  She began her professional career by teaching health and physical education to inner-city children but spent the bulk of a distinguished career with the Brandywine School District as an Elementary School Counselor at Harlan Elementary and Carrcroft Elementary Schools.  Nancy was an active leader in her profession, serving on the Brandywine School District’s Crisis Response Team and as the Chairperson of its Elementary School Counselors for many years.  She was a valued colleague and was recognized as Carrcroft Elementary School’s 2008 Teacher of the Year.  Of greater importance to her, however, was her role in helping her students through difficult situations in their lives.  She received many personal expressions of gratitude from parents and grandparents for her understanding and caring empathy, advice, and assistance to her students and their families.

After her declining health forced her to retire, Nancy continued to give back to her community, especially its children, by volunteering with Read Aloud Delaware, Supporting Kidds, as well as the Delaware Theater Company, the Hagley Museum, Green Circle, and Delaware Hospice, for which she was a summer camp counselor.  She loved to travel, remained active as much as possible including regular aquatics at the local YMCA, and stayed in frequent contact with a group of loyal high school friends, whom she treasured.

Nancy leaves a legacy of family devotion, caring for others and remarkable fortitude.   A celebration of Nancy’s life will be held at Chandler Funeral Home; 2506 Concord Pike; Wilmington, DE 19803 on Saturday, July 13, 2024.  A visitation will begin at 11:00am, with a service to follow at 12:00pm.

Funeral Services

A celebration of Nancy’s life will be held at Chandler Funeral Home; 2506 Concord Pike; Wilmington, DE 19803 on Saturday, July 13, 2024.  A visitation will begin at 11:00am, with a service to follow at 12:00pm.

Condolences

    Bill Shindel writes,
    Dean so sorry for your loss prayers and love to you and your family sounds like she lived a very fulfilling life 🙏❤️
    06/25/2024 04:42 pm
    Elaine Alvin lit a candle and writes,
    She was in my zen class and a regular at our zen monthly meeting the last time we saw her was at the May lunch and she was her usual cheerful self. We all loved her. 🥰😢
    06/25/2024 05:32 pm
    Janet Gray writes,
    So sorry Dean, my condolences to you and your family. I send prayers to all, and may your memories carry you through your grief.
    06/25/2024 11:05 pm
    Joanne Nowak lit a candle and writes,
    Nancy was my neighbor across the street for 10 years, she was such a lovely, warm and caring person. I will miss sitting on the front porch in the evenings with Nancy, I still expect to see her on the rocker as I peer out my front door. I will miss my friend., Hugs and prayers to all of you. Joanne and Maxie
    06/26/2024 12:03 pm
    Bernadette Clagg writes,
    I’m so sorry to hear of the world’s loss of Mrs. Carney. I will always recall her humor and kindness as a child myself, which I have an even greater appreciation of as an adult. Mrs. Carney left a legacy of making sure children knew they mattered. The world has lost a light. I’m so sorry Neal.
    06/26/2024 09:08 pm
    Bill Forrest writes,
    I am saddened by the passing of a sweet childhood neighbor, and friend. Although we went in different directions, we were lucky to be able to visit with Nancy, along with her mom a few times. I have such fond memories of Nancy, along with the entire Murray family. Carol and I send our deepest condolences to the Murray family, and friends. 🙏🏻❤️😇
    06/26/2024 10:35 pm
    Gae Piotti lit a candle and writes,
    Nancy was my neighbor in Talleybrook. All of us in the ladies' Bunco group love her and will miss her sorely. What a blessing to have known her.
    06/27/2024 03:32 pm
    Kathi Yates lit a candle and writes,
    Nancy was my neighbor for many years, we watched our son’s grow up and play ball together. Those were good years. She will be missed! 💐
    06/27/2024 04:59 pm
    Dave Fidler writes,
    I did not know Nancy,…but I am certain she played a significant role in shaping you, Dean. For this she has my gratitude, love and respect. I’m sorry for your loss and wish you peace in knowing she has begun her new life in eternity …freed of pain and suffering. May GOD bless you…
    06/27/2024 09:55 pm
    Carol Williamson writes,
    Darren and Neal, I knew your mother through your grandparents, Bill and Betty. Nancy and I taught Vacation Bible School together at Chester Bethel, substitute taught at Harlan, saw each other at DE Theater Co., etc. It was my honor to know her. She was an inspiration and will be a loss. Our deepest sympathy from Bob and me. Our condolences also to her siblings.
    06/28/2024 01:51 pm
    Pat and Mike writes,
    I met Nancy while teaching at Harlan so very many years ago. Her kind heart and strong friendship will be missed by so many. R.I.P my dear friend. R.I.P.
    06/29/2024 11:04 am
    Paulyne A. Webster lit a candle and writes,
    Nancy was a very caring and compassionate person. Always sharing and thinking of others. She will Always be thought of in the minds of our Aquatics groups. Paulyne A. Webster
    06/29/2024 03:24 pm
    David McGonigle BHS Class of '66 writes,
    Heaven is getting an exceptional person who was also one flaming red haired, baton twirling, high kicking Brandywine Bulldog Majorette. My condolences to her family. Keep marching and twirling.
    06/30/2024 05:51 pm
    Kathy Lyons Fleming writes,
    Dear family and friends of sweet Nancy, Our condolences to all of you. Nancy was a lovely person who will be missed by all of us. She was always positive, pleasant and smiling. May her memory be a blessing. With love, Dave& Kathy Fleming
    07/02/2024 09:58 am
    Andea writes,
    Dean, Donna, and Family, I am so sorry for your loss. Nancy was an amazing educator and such a giving, generous person. My condolences.
    07/02/2024 06:01 pm
    Caroline Wiley writes,
    I am so sorry For your loss. The Murray family is a big part of my childhood memories… Especially Nancy. we must have created a path between our two houses which were probably about a mile apart. We went to Chester Bethel church together and sang in the youth choir. I thought she was so lucky to have so many siblings! I know that you will all miss her terribly even though her love will remain with you always..Into eternity. 🙏🏻
    07/02/2024 08:58 pm
    Hon. Wayne R. Hanby lit a candle and writes,
    The Murray and Hanby families go way back regarding our Chester Bethel Church relationships (choir, Summer Bible School, Church dances, Sunday School, MYF, etc.) I always had a "warm & tender" spot in my heart for Nancy. When I returned home from Vietnam in 1970, I was a "mangled" mess. My self-esteem and confidence was very low. It was Nancy who was the first to offer to go to dinner with me (Romel's in Fairfax). She was very important towards my road to recovery. The world will be a sadder place without Nancy. With Fond Memories, Wayne Hanby.
    07/05/2024 09:33 am
    Darlene V Erbenich lit a candle and writes,
    So sorry for your loss. I worked with Nancy at Carrcroft for a short time. She was a good person always smiling. She will be missed. Rest In Peace my friend.
    07/06/2024 09:08 am
    Brett Tracy writes,
    my guidance counselor in the sixth grade at Harlan elementary always remember her because she was good to me, and when running into her way later in life, she remembered me and she knew who I was; it blew my mind. You will definitely be missed.
    07/07/2024 05:28 am
    Joan Obrien writes,
    Nancy was a wonderful neighbor. I always enjoyed her twinkling eyes and great smile when we had the opportunity to be together. She will be missed. 🌺💕
    07/07/2024 06:47 pm
    Kathy O‘Brien lit a candle and writes,
    Nancy was my neighbor in Talleybrook. I will miss seeing her on her porch and our little chats while out walking the dogs. She always had a friendly smile and wave while sitting out on the driveway enjoying her grandchildren. She was a kind and caring person. My sincere condolences to all her loved ones.
    07/07/2024 07:14 pm
    Kathy O‘Brien
    07/07/2024 07:15 pm
    Sister Virginia Spiegel writes,
    I lived next door to Nancy on Kennedy Road for many years. She was a friendly and helpful neighbor. When I needed a walker she shared one with me. As I walked around our neighborhood, Nancy would often be sitting in her rocker on her front porch. What a delight spending time with her in the other rocker on her porch as I ended my walk. May she rest peace is my prayer for her. Sister Virginia Spiegel
    07/08/2024 03:55 pm
    Marybeth Auld writes,
    I have been aquatinted with Nancy for the past 15 years through Curves and the Y pool. She showed grace and determination as she worked to keep her independence. All the while showing kindness and interest in everyone else’s life . She will be missed by all her friends at the Y.
    07/10/2024 03:33 pm
    Alice Masterson writes,
    I am so saddened to learn of Nancy's passing. I worked with Nancy at Harlan Elementary and we kept in touch after I left to work at Brandywood. She was a dear person and friend. My sincere condolences to family and friends.
    07/21/2024 01:18 pm
    Diana Stevens writes,
    After being away for several weeks, I was sad to learn about Nancy's passing. We were Green Circle facilitators. Nancy modeled the Green Circle values of caring and sharing. She had a positive influence on the lives of many Delaware children.
    09/13/2024 04:04 pm

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