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Mary V. Barnes

Mary Vondersaar Barnes, age 62, of Hockessin, DE departed this world on January 3rd, 2024. She resided in Hockessin for 25 years with her husband, John (Sean) Barnes of 32 years.

She was born in Lebanon, Indiana in January of 1961 and was the daughter of the late Paul Richard Vondersaar and Joan (Coyle) Vondersaar. Mary is survived by her son Liam Patrick Barnes and his fiancée Kendall Dishek of Round Hill, VA, and daughter Emma Marie Barnes of Reston, VA.

She is also survived by sisters Anne (Vondersaar) Gaylord, Carole (Vondersaar) Seidl, and Kathryn (Vondersaar) Lee, and brothers Paul Vondersaar II, Joseph Vondersaar and Thomas Vondersaar.

Mary grew up in Brownsburg, Indiana and graduated from Cardinal Ritter High School in 1979. She received a bachelor’s degree in Fine Arts in metalsmithing from Ball State University in Muncie, IN in 1983.

Mary subsequently worked for jewelry design studios in New York City and further refined her jewelry design and fabrication skills working for several jewelry stores back in Indianapolis. After marrying Sean Barnes in 1991 they moved to Delaware, where Mary worked for Stuart Kingston Jewelers for many years while also developing an independent following of clients who appreciated her exquisite designs and workmanship.

She eventually struck out on her own, opening an Etsy store that was extremely successful. Working out of the basement of her home she produced world-class jewelry that attracted a wide clientele.

Mary was a very gifted athlete, competing in over 20 Spartan obstacle races all over the country. She trained with great determination for these races, setting up a gym in her basement and training every day. This paid off – she medaled several times, most notably winning Gold in her age group. She was also an accomplished pickleball player, winning many tournaments and representing Delaware in the National Senior Games.

Although very competitive in sports, Mary had a very kind and generous heart and gained many close friends through her various activities. She will be greatly missed by her friends in fitness groups, and in the Diamond State Pickleball Club and many other clubs in the region.

She and her husband enjoyed travel and visited France, Spain, Ireland (her husband’s homeland), New Zealand, Kauai, the Florida Keys, and St. Croix, among other destinations.

Her indomitable spirit in facing her illness was an inspiration to her carers and to all who had the privilege of knowing her. This wonderful woman will be sorely missed by her family and many friends.

A Memorial Service will be held on Wednesday, January 10, 2024 at 6:00 pm at Chandler Funeral Home, 7230 Lancaster Pike, Hockessin, DE 19707. A viewing will be held prior to the service from 4:00 to 6:00 pm. Interment will be private.

Funeral Services

A Memorial Service will be held on Wednesday, January 10, 2024 at 6:00 pm at Chandler Funeral Home, 7230 Lancaster Pike, Hockessin, DE 19707. A viewing will be held prior to the service from 4:00 to 6:00 pm. Interment will be private.

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Condolences

    Marti Williams writes,
    On the pickleball court Mary was a fierce competitor yet very friendly and generous off the court. I enjoyed talking to her and sharing what our "kids" are doing now. Her pride and love for Liam and Emma was obvious! She will be missed. My condolences to her family and friends.
    01/05/2024 09:01 pm
    Dick & Esther Dillon writes,
    Deepest Sympathy to Sean, Liam & Emma on the very sad loss of Mary. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.
    01/06/2024 06:11 am
    Colm & Lorraine Dillon. writes,
    Deepest sympathy to Sean, Liam & Emma on the very sad passing of Mary. Our thoughts are with you all at this very sad time.
    01/06/2024 06:14 am
    Fred & Patricia Boyd writes,
    Our deepest sympathy to Sean, Liam, Emma and extended family. We shall be thinking of you on Wednesday at this very difficult time. RIP Mary.
    01/06/2024 07:37 am
    Matt & Jan Bowles lit a candle and writes,
    There is a new bright star in the heavens today reminding us all of the beauty Mary left us in this world. Thank you Mary for your work in life and your art.
    01/06/2024 10:45 am
    Dian Rash lit a candle and writes,
    Mary was an amazing woman. I am really going to miss her ! Prayers for strength and comfort for Sean and the entire family. Dian
    01/06/2024 11:06 am
    Denis Clarke and family lit a candle and writes,
    Sincere sympathy to you Sean and family on the death of your wife Mary may she Rest in Peace
    01/06/2024 11:36 am
    Skip Bradley lit a candle and writes,
    I met Mary and Sean while playing pickleball. Mary was a fierce competitor who just loved to play. Being a fellow left handed player and a new player, I learned from her by watching her play. She was always helpful answering any question that you asked. There is a big hole in the pickleball community. She will be missed. All my best to Sean and her family.
    01/06/2024 11:51 am
    Dave cross writes,
    To all Conversations siblings. So very sorry to hear you have lost your sister. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. On behalf of all Crosses Dave Cross
    01/06/2024 12:58 pm
    Mimi Rufe writes,
    We met on the pickleball court , but we shared our art( painting ) and jewelry designer . We both said ( sotto voce ) how the pandemic was very good to us as we sold many pieces of our art . Life simply is unfair , in this case . My deepest sympathies with Sean, and her entire family. Here’s to you , Mary . One more overhead smash !
    01/06/2024 01:00 pm
    The Parle Family, Drinagh, Wexford. writes,
    Sincere sympathy to Sean, Liam and Emma on the passing of Mary. We were delighted to meet Mary on your last trip to Ireland, she was a beautiful, talented girl. Bessie, Lockey & Angie.
    01/06/2024 02:02 pm
    Elizabeth Clarke lit a candle and writes,
    Deepest sympathy Sean on the death of Mary and also to Liam & Emma: so sad to lose their mother. My thoughts are with you and extended family at this very sad and difficult time. God Bless.
    01/06/2024 03:57 pm
    Mary, Caroline, Catherine and James Moore, Ballyhealy. lit a candle and writes,
    Sincere condolences to Sean, Liam and Emma, and all Mary's family, on the death of Mary. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all at this very sad time. May Mary rest in peace 🙏
    01/06/2024 05:05 pm
    The Hugheys lit a candle and writes,
    Condolences to the Vondersaar & Barnes clans 💝 Glad to have several of her jewelry treasures as mementos.
    01/06/2024 07:33 pm
    Carlo writes,
    I enjoyed playing pickleball with Mary. She was a great player who will be missed. So sorry for her family and friends.
    01/06/2024 08:35 pm
    Joe & Sharon Beran lit a candle and writes,
    I always enjoyed playing Pickleball with Mary. As she was first learning the game, you could tell the enormous talent & drive she had to get better. And she got to be very good! She was very thoughtful & caring. The Pickleball community will surely miss her as well as those of us who got to know her. Our deepest thoughts and sympathies are with you, Sean.
    01/07/2024 07:31 am
    Susan Sperry writes,
    Dear Vondesaars, We Sperrys are dismayed and sad at Mary's death. Our families have been friends for many years and just the knowledge of a missing Vondesaar leaves a big hole. I think our Mom might have been Mary's Godmother and in any case, Mom and Dad were very proud of Mary's accomplishments. On behalf of all Sperry's, our condolences. Much love, Susan Sperry
    01/07/2024 03:06 pm
    Ann Barnes lit a candle and writes,
    Deepest sympathy to Sean ,Liam and Emma at this very sad time on the death of Mary .I have some very fond memories of spending time with Mary many years back when we holidayed together in Maine when kids were young and more recently when herself and Sean returned to visit Ireland .I am very fortunate to have a few pieces of her very creative jewellery which will always remind me of Mary .Sean Liam and Emma we are with you and thinking about you during this very difficult time . Rest in peace Mary .
    01/07/2024 04:48 pm
    Kenny Beach lit a candle and writes,
    I have many fond memories playing pickleball with Mary Barnes. She was a class act on and off the court who will be fondly remembered by those who knew her. Rest in peace Mary.
    01/07/2024 06:15 pm
    Max lit a candle and writes,
    Loved playing pickleball with Mary she was always fierce competition and gracious in victory, as she almost never lost! Condolences , Max King III
    01/07/2024 07:35 pm
    Laura Barnes writes,
    So sorry to hear of Mary’s passing and thinking of you all Sean, Liam and Emma. You are all in my thoughts. May she rest in peace
    01/08/2024 06:23 am
    John Merritt lit a candle and writes,
    It was always fun being around Mary and Sean when we played pickle ball. Mary gave me many ideas on an engagement ring for my son, but we were never able to follow through because of her illness.. I will miss her and my thoughts and prayers are with Sean and the family. Mary, long battle, but rest in peace.🙏
    01/08/2024 08:47 am
    Kevin Young lit a candle and writes,
    Sean, so very saddened to learn of Mary’s passing. May you, your children and families find comfort knowing how much she inspired everyone in the PB community by her indomitable spirit and tenacity on the court as well as during her illness. I will always cherish memories of our spirited play at Greenbank during the challenging year of Covid. She always had time for “one more game” and another overhead smash. May she rest in peace. My sincerest sympathies.
    01/08/2024 12:26 pm
    Conor Barnes writes,
    Deepest sympathies to Sean, Liam, and Emma on the passing of Mary. Thinking of you all during this difficult time, may she she rest in peace.
    01/08/2024 01:12 pm
    Rita McQuillan writes,
    Our deepest sympathy to Sean Emma Liam and extended family on the sad passing of Mary. May she rest in peace . Rita and Paraic McQuillan Leixlip Ireland
    01/08/2024 01:17 pm
    Gerry Barnes lit a candle and writes,
    Sean, Liam and Emma, our thoughts and prayers are with you at this very difficult time. I have lovely memories of sharing a family holiday with you and Mary many years ago and of her last visit to Ireland in 2017. Mary was taken all too soon. Gerard
    01/08/2024 02:28 pm
    Audrey, Nicola & Elaine Dillon writes,
    Sincere sympathy to Sean, Liam and Emma at this time. May Mary rest in peace.
    01/08/2024 03:47 pm
    Doug Adamson writes,
    Sean, Emma and Liam: On behalf of my family as well as the many members of the Hockessin Pick Up Soccer Group, please accept our heartfelt condolences for the loss of your wife and mother. Cherish the fond memories of a life well lived and may Mary rest in peace.
    01/08/2024 04:27 pm
    Marian English (nee Flynn) Leixlip. lit a candle and writes,
    To Sean, Liam, Emma and the extended family. My deepest sympathy to you all on the sad death of Mary. May she rest peacefully.
    01/08/2024 04:56 pm
    Meg (Sperry) Nixon writes,
    Dear, dear Vondersaar’s one and all - I simply want to write of my sadness for you as you walk through this season of loss. I enjoyed reading of your creative and talented sister, though I did not know Mary well. I have sweet memories of our families being together throughout the years. May you hear God’s voice of comfort in the days and months ahead. -Meg (Sperry) Nixon
    01/08/2024 11:18 pm
    Matt and Anne O'Brien writes,
    Sending deepest sympathy to Seán, Liam and Emma on the very sad loss of your dear wife and mother, Mary. Our thoughts are with you at this very sad time. Ar dheis Dé go raibh a hanam dílis.
    01/09/2024 05:48 pm
    Vicki Fallowfield Young writes,
    Dearest Beloved Families, Our hearts are full of love and sympathy. Our beautiful Mary will be missed by so many. Her precious earthly life was too short. Yet, how blessed are we by spending time with her! Mary embodied all that was pure, wholesome and loving. She will remain in our hearts forever. Mary was a quiet leader. Her sincere dedication to others, exemplified strength and spirit. Memories of Mary will live in us forever. Sharing the legacy of her gentle-kind leadership, will continue to inspire others for generations to come. Mary was a gifted and talented artist. Her unique and lovely pieces were crafted with personal and perfect detail. Mary created a gorgeous heirloom ring as a gift to our daughter, Chelsea, upon her engagement. I will always be grateful and thankful for Mary’s talent and her loving care in creating this cherished ring. Memories of our time together, grace my heart with the most precious moments. As children, we would gather mint leaves from the woods behind the house on 56th Street. Mom Vondersaar would place the leaves in glasses of Coke to create a refreshing summer drink. Sleepovers included delicious dinners. I loved eating in the family room at the beautiful picnic table hand-crafted by Dad Vondersaar. Before going to bed, Carole let us listen to her Elton John records. We would play them on the turntable in the living room. In the mornings, we would awaken to mouth-watering smells of homemade cinnamon rolls. Mom Vondersaar’s baking was a delicious treat! Baby Katie would follow us around the house. Her rosy cheeks and pigtails made us laugh. She was irresistible! We couldn’t help but pick her up and carry her in our arms . Sometimes Mary and I would slip into the greenhouse to view Dad Vondersaar’s gorgeous orchids. Their heavenly scent filled the air. They were the most prized flowers in all of Hendricks County. Dad Vondersaar took Mary and I to our first scary movie at Lafayette Square Mall. He loved it as much as we did! Mary loved making things-anything! She crocheted a nose cover for my Dad, Bud, because he was constantly complaining of the cold. Fallowfield’s are known for their exceptional large noses and Mary made the most of it. She also made a leather bracelet for Daddy embossed with the name “RoseBud.” That is a story within itself. Daddy loved Mary like a daughter of his own heart. Mary loved crossword puzzles. She would sit at the table for hours completing one after another. Mary and I would go to Lafayette Square Mall to see Carole. Carole worked at Murphy’s. We always treated ourselves to Murphy’s caramel popcorn. CYO Kickball (Catholic Youth Organization) was our most competitive sport. After school, we would braid each other’s hair. In my mind’s eye, I can still see Mary’s reflection in the upstairs school’s bathroom mirror braiding my hair. I cherish that memory. Mary was the queen of kickball. She could throw a pitch that made the opposing player jump with fear. Mary could pitch a fastball with a spin that defied gravity. Her slow pitch was equally untouchable. Mary’s reputation as the most revered, successful and respected pitcher continues to stand in the kickball history of St. Malachy. So many thoughts, so many memories. Mary gave us the very best of herself. Please know how grateful we are to God for the gift of His beautiful Mary. I love you Mary. Forever in my heart…Vicki
    01/09/2024 11:06 pm
    Monica & Joseph Kelly writes,
    Deepest Sympathy to Sean, Liam & Emma on the sad loss of Mary. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.
    01/10/2024 08:17 am
    Joan Moroney writes,
    To Sean & family . Sincere condolences on your great loss . Our dear friends Ann & Gerry spoke so highly of Mary. May she RIP Mike & Joan Moroney Leixlip, Ireland .
    01/10/2024 08:46 am
    Liam & Catherine Byrne (nee Flynn)Castleknock . lit a candle and writes,
    To Sean Liam Emma and the extended family sincere sympathy on the sad passing of Mary. May she rest in peace.
    01/10/2024 11:26 am
    Marie Boulton lit a candle and writes,
    Fond memories of times spent with Sean & Mary when we lived stateside. Attending their wedding in Indiana, visits back and forth between Delaware and Massachusetts. The fun we all had when Liam was born, then our daughter Ciara and then Emma. A big family holiday on the beach in Maine with Gérard and family and Granny Barbara. We moved back to the UK in 1997 and then had our son Luke . We all attended a family reunion in Ireland in 2012, when the kids were in their teens and we all enjoyed watching them interact. Lots of fun times. Rest in peace Mary. To Sean, Liam and Emma, you are in our thoughts. We hope to see you over this way when the time is right. Lots of love from Marie, John, Ciara & Luke xxxx
    01/10/2024 02:04 pm
    Irene Legiec writes,
    Our deepest condolences to the Barnes Family... From the Kuczykowski family next door
    01/10/2024 03:21 pm
    patricia nelson writes,
    I still cannot believe this! Mary was one of my first BFA graduates from the Ball State metals area. she was incredibly talented, everything she designed and made was just absolutely beautiful. She gave me so much confidence as a teacher in my first years at Ball State - but it was really her talent that shone through. This whole world is a better place because of Mary's presence, and it is definitely a poorer place without her and her extraordinary talent. Im in mourning.
    01/23/2024 09:57 am

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