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Frank Marshall Hoopes, Jr.

Frank Marshall Hoopes, Jr. went peacefully to his Lord’s eternal home on June 4, 2023.

Frank was born in Wilmington, Delaware on March 19, 1936 and packed several lifetimes of living into his 87 years. He grew up on Shipley Road and graduated from Wilmington Friends School and Washington & Lee University. A fine athlete, Frank played baseball at Washington & Lee and was the team’s most valuable player his senior year. Frank was president of his fraternity, Delta Upsilon, in 1958. He continued his education at Columbia University School of Business where he earned his MBA. Frank then served the country he loved so dearly in the United States Army as a tank platoon leader at Fort Knox, Kentucky.

Though his father conducted a successful dental practice in Wilmington, Frank did not follow in his footsteps as his younger brother, Rob, later did. Instead, as Frank told it, “I always wanted to be a businessman.” Frank joined the DuPont Company in 1960 and enjoyed a distinguished career that spanned nearly 40 years. He served in several of the company’s businesses, including automotive finishes, Teflon and Corian and finished his career at ICI when DuPont swapped the Acrylic Monomers business that Frank directed. He retired with much acclaim in 1999 having lived and worked in Cleveland, New York City, Toledo, Grand Rapids, West Chester, Dallas, Miami and, of course, Wilmington.

Frank excelled at baseball, but his true fascination was with golf. Over the years, he belonged to such wonderful clubs as Inverness Club, Doral Country Club, Blythfield and Grand Harbor. He served as president of Eagles Mere Country Club where he spent many summers. But he always belonged to his beloved Wilmington Country Club, having been a member for over 70 years and serving in many leadership capacities.

Frank was a competitor. He loved the rough-and-tumble that he found in both business and sports, but was a stickler for the rules, always holding himself to the same high standards of conduct and decorum to which he was sure to hold his opponents. And he was no pushover, loving the psychology of competition. His good-natured, creative and always hilarious trash talk was something to behold. When asked about it, Frank once said, “Every golf match is won and lost in the locker room when you’re putting on your shoes next to your opponent.” He could give an earful.

As much as Frank loved business, golf, Philadelphia sports teams (and, yes, the Dallas Cowboys), the greatest part of his heart belonged to his family, beginning with his wife Anne. Frank and Anne were married in 1965 and were devoted to each other for those 58 years. He always expressed gratitude that his daughters Laura Nilsen and Ashley Wilks both lived nearby in Chadds Ford, Pennsylvania. Frank was an attentive and doting grandfather to Laura’s boys, Ryan and Brett, and Ashley’s girls, Sophie and Eliza. His sons-in-law, Keith Nilsen and David Wilks, will always fondly recall Eagles Mere evenings with Frank and his good friend Johnnie Walker.

Frank Hoopes was one of a kind. He was fiercely loyal and he was lovingly gentle. He was sternly serious about the things that matter and he was hilariously irreverent about the things that don’t. He taught us much and we will miss him.

Our family cannot adequately express our love, respect and appreciation for the nurses, aides and staff at Country House, where Frank finished his days. We witnessed selfless love and great skill in action every day.

In lieu of flowers, we ask that donations be made in Frank’s memory to the Wounded Warriors Project. A celebration of life will be held on June 29, 2023. Details available from the family.

Funeral Services

A celebration of life will be held on June 29, 2023. Details available from the family.

Condolences

    Mary Ball Morton writes,
    Dear Hoopes Family, John and I send our condolences and know that your great memories of Frank will sustain you. With deepest sympathy, Mary Ball and John
    06/08/2023 11:29 am
    alexis angelucci lit a candle and writes,
    We were very sorry to hear about the passing of Frank. We will All miss visiting with him. He was definitely a ray of sunshine and always brought laughter into the conversation. His bright smile will be missed! Please know that our thoughts are with your family during this time. Your friends at Wilmington Dental Associates Dr. Michael Lenz and Dr. Anthony Vattilana
    06/08/2023 12:41 pm
    Betsy Ballard lit a candle and writes,
    I am so sorry for your loss. I know he had to have been an amazing man considering the wonderful woman he raised. I hope that fond memories of wonderful times together make the days ahead a bit easier. Sending much love and warm thoughts.
    06/08/2023 01:06 pm
    Karen Greeley Pena writes,
    I have so many fond memories of Frank. He was a huge part of my parents life. But also had a wonderful presence in my life as well. I know how much you will all miss him❤️❤️❤️
    06/10/2023 08:36 pm
    Bob Zelten writes,
    For many years in Eagles Mere it was the foursome of Hoopes, Albertini, Hirsch and Zelten nearly every weekend. Only one of us left. Often when Frank hit a bad shot he would call himself a goat - and he did not mean the Greatest Of All Time - as that phrase is now used. Things were not the same in Eagles Mere when he and Anne left and the world is no longer the same since his departure. Thanks for the good times.
    06/11/2023 08:11 am
    Anne Bailey Donaghy lit a candle and writes,
    My fondest memories of Frank are from so many years ago, from our days at Wilmington Friends School. Jim and I send our most sincere sympathies to Frank's family. May he rest in peace.
    06/11/2023 04:31 pm
    Bonnie White writes,
    Frank was soooooooo fun to be with. Much sympathy to Anne, Laura and Ashley. Xoxo Bonnie White
    06/12/2023 12:35 pm
    Marti writes,
    My heartfelt condolences to the family. May you find comfort in your many wonderful memories and in the loving support of God and family. 2 Corinthians 1:3,4
    06/12/2023 09:02 pm
    Anne-Marie and Tom O'Brien lit a candle and writes,
    Our sincere regrets and condolences to Frank's family. As a fraternity brother, classmate and later parents of students at W&L my wife and I had many pleasant times with Anne and Frank.
    06/13/2023 05:09 pm
    Ken Rygler writes,
    Frank was an early mentor of mine when I joined DuPont in the mid-1960s. I learned a lot from him and very much enjoyed our interactions.
    06/15/2023 09:35 am
    Lester W Young lit a candle and writes,
    Dear Anne and family I'm so sorry to hear of Frank's passing. I greatly enjoyed my time with him at DuPont and he taught me a lot during our time together at Refinish. Those sure were the best of the "good old days". It was noteworthy how much he loved the Cowboys and whenever I went to Dallas on business, I would find him all sorts of memorabilia. It takes a lot to be a Dallas fan in Eagles territory. I fondly remember trying to help him sell his Mustang, but somehow I can't remember how that turned out. Being a fellow BMW lover, I wanted a ride when he got his M at retirement - another opportunity squandered. I would have been honored and pleased to share the Celebration of Life on the 29th, but I have to be in California to help daughter and grandkids out with a project. I will be thinking of all of you. Lester Young 610 656 3512
    06/17/2023 11:03 pm
    Barbara Blumberg writes,
    What an amazing man!!!!!! I am so sorry for your loss. Sending love, Barb Blumberg
    06/18/2023 08:02 am
    Irma Todd lit a candle and writes,
    Dear Anne, Laura and Ashley, Howard and I are so saddened by the loss of this “really great friend”. We have had too many fond memories of Frank to count! Always the life of the party and frequently the butt of friendly jokes but always joined in the laughter when the joke was on him. A good sport for sure! He will be missed by all. Please accept our sincere condolences and may all the fond memories of good times sustain each of you. Much love, Irma and Howard Todd
    06/20/2023 01:43 pm
    Sally Foley lit a candle and writes,
    Dear Anne, Laurie and Ashley, A belated note to say how sorry I am for the loss of your dear husband, dad, father-in-law and grandfather. Your loving description of his life provided a fitting tribute to his loving nature, his high standards and his adherence to positive values. Frank was, and Anne is, so proud of all of you. Although you will miss him always, I hope that the memories of years of Frank’s wise guidance, the good example he set always, and his enjoyment of life, will eventually replace the pain of grief. Love, Sally Foley
    09/25/2023 10:12 pm
    Paul and Barbie Rothfuss writes,
    We send our much belated condolences and our love to Anne and to Frank's family. We've many fond memories of our trip to Edinburgh and especially the Military Tattoo. And of good times in Eagles Mere...and golf with Frank. Unforgettable.
    01/27/2024 01:51 pm
    Robert M. Connolly lit a candle and writes,
    An amazing gentlemen. It was my sincere pleasure to work with Frank!!
    09/05/2024 10:05 pm

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