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Ashok Kumar Gupta

Ashok Kumar Gupta, 74, died surrounded by his closest loved ones in the early morning of May 30, 2023. He was a beloved husband and patriarch, an ambitious businessman, a worldly devotee of sports and culture, and a prodigious absorber of knowledge and wisdom.

Born on Jan. 12, 1949 and raised in Chennai, India, Ashok formed friendships during high school that lasted his entire life and stretched across the globe.

By the age of 19, he had already graduated early from high school and earned a bachelor’s degree in chemical engineering from Alagappa Chettiar College of Technology. In 1969, he became the first in his family to relocate to the United States to pursue additional higher education. The results included a bachelor’s degree in business administration from Washington State University in 1971; a bachelor’s degree in accounting from Minnesota State University in 1976; and a master’s in business administration from Minnesota State in 1984.

His academic accomplishments translated to such positions as controller for the companies Rexnord and Contech, chief financial officer for CBSI, and, for the last 15 years of his career, financial consultant for the Delaware Lottery.

His U.S. journey took him from Washington state to Minnesota, where he married Indira Srivastava in 1983 following a memorable first date at the Rusty Pelican restaurant in Miami, Florida. While living in Minneapolis, the pair welcomed their first child, Arjun. Later they relocated to Florida, where their daughter, Aparna, was born, before heading to Michigan and finally Delaware.

Ashok’s friends and family saw him as upbeat and unwavering. He loved to greet his children, grandchildren, and nieces and nephews alike with a hearty “Hey, kiddo!” and never failed to celebrate even their smallest victories.

“It’s rare that you have a relationship with a parent that’s so simple as my relationship with my dad was,” said his daughter, Aparna O’Connor. “I always knew he loved me, I always knew he was proud of me, and I always knew he would support whatever I chose.”

Sports and movies occupied much of Ashok’s leisure time. He was passionate about the often- beleaguered Minnesota Vikings, and rarely missed an overseas cricket match, no matter the hour.

He could rattle off encyclopedic repertoires of athletic statistics and Bollywood song lyrics, to which he would enthusiastically dance at family weddings. Crossword puzzles and word games kept him active even when he was at rest.

He appreciated–and implored others to appreciate–meals that reminded him of his native South India, and desserts that indulged his insatiable sweet tooth. “He made even the most mundane tasks enjoyable,” one friend shared.

He was preceded in death by his parents and his brother Shailendra, who passed in 2008.

He is survived by his wife of 39 years, Indira Gupta; children Arjun Gupta, 39, and Aparna O’Connor, 35; son-in-law, Sean O’Connor; and grandchildren Aria O’Connor, 3, and Liam O’Connor, 2, as well as a broad network of extended relatives and longtime friends.

Funeral Services

Visitation will be held Friday, June 2, 2023 at Chandler Funeral Home, 7230 Lancaster Pike, from 10:00-10:45AM with funeral service starting at 10:45AM

Condolences

    Kelly M Rottenbucher lit a candle and writes,
    Beautiful description of this obviously wonderful person. I never had the pleasure of meeting him, but his son, Arjun, is one of the most amazing people I have ever met. I am so very sorry for this huge loss. Thoughts are with the whole family.
    06/01/2023 09:52 am
    Mandell J Much lit a candle and writes,
    I had the privilege of knowing Ashok and Indira as Aparna and I worked together for many years. Though our professional lives took different paths, Aparna and I remain friends. I first met Indira when Aparna invited me to dinner with her mother at our favorite local Indian restaurant. We had a wonderful dinner and conversation. Indira was particularly interested in knowing my opinion of Sean who Aparna was dating at the time! I didn’t have much to say as I had only met him a few times. I did say, Sean seemed like a nice guy and Aparna seemed happy! I later found out that Sean had flown out to Detroit a month earlier to ask Ashok’s permission to marry his daughter. I was invited to their wedding in Baltimore, my first traditional, at least in the American sense, Indian wedding. It was so beautiful and special. Although I knew Ashok had accomplished many things, both educationally and professionally, neither he nor Aparna spoke of them. Mostly, we talked food. I know how much Aparna loved her dad and how proud he was of her! He was a gentleman, a loving husband, father, and grandfather. The last few years have been rough for his family. My hope and prayers are that all will cherish the greatness of Ashok and the memories of his kind and humble spirit.
    06/01/2023 10:55 am
    Kamlesh Saxena writes,
    A very well written obituary. A joy to be with - with his wit and always on sense of humor. An instant connection since our first meeting August ‘83 - when he also me his future wife Indu. Leaves a lasting legacy as a loving, kind family. This is not a goodbye because you will always be in our hearts. - Malini and Kamlesh
    06/01/2023 11:15 am
    Sara Demeter lit a candle and writes,
    Our deepest condolences to the Gupta family. 💐💐
    06/01/2023 11:25 am
    Shyama Yadava lit a candle and writes,
    We are so very sorry to lose him so early.He was my brother in law. We enjoyed spending time with him whenever he came to India. We will miss his hearty laugh. He enjoyed his food and all the good things! He will be sorely missed.
    06/01/2023 11:40 am
    Vikram Srivastava lit a candle and writes,
    Memories and my association will never fade away. A very lively jovial person with an pish smile. Still remember the last merting vividly during my trip in 2016 for a wedding celebration of Vikash my nephew. All my prayers and thoughts with Indu Arjun Aparna and Seam to give them strength to bear this loss Wish I could be there with you all tp sing one of his favourite songs from" Gamblers"--Dil aaj shayar hai gham aaj nagma hai...." Rest in peace buddy. We will miss you . You were one of the few with whom I enjoyed having a drink !
    06/01/2023 12:18 pm
    Amy & Paul lit a candle and writes,
    We are very saddened by the loss of such a wonderful person, we are thinking about everyone. Arjun is like our brother who is the most amazing person, who we love and adore so much. Sending our deepest condolences.
    06/01/2023 07:33 pm
    Palestine Staton lit a candle and writes,
    Ms Indira I am so sorry for your loss- I will continue to have you and your family in my thoughts and prayers Please cherish all of your wonderful memories- I recall his prediction of you sharing his avid passion for football … as I was routing for my Eagles 🦅 I will continue to pray for your strength during this difficult time. I am and will always be here if you need to chat❤️ Your friend /co-worker
    06/01/2023 07:46 pm
    Phillip Yadava lit a candle and writes,
    I remember his fondness for Bertie Wooster and Jeeves.
    06/01/2023 09:44 pm
    Mridula Bhandari lit a candle and writes,
    Rest in peace dear brother in law 🙏🙏.
    06/01/2023 10:40 pm
    Anita Chandra writes,
    Deepest sympathies. You and the family will remain in my thoughts as I send healing energy your way.
    06/02/2023 01:14 am
    Bridget Delhi lit a candle and writes,
    Although I only had the pleasure of meeting Ashok once during a visit to the US many years ago, I so appreciated the heartfelt post put up by the family. Indira and I go back to our BA days. Over the years, our journeys took us to different locations around the world, and we didn’t have the opportunity to meet up. However, as our dear friend, Indira, comes to terms with the loss of her life partner, and their caring children support their mother and each other, we would like the Gupta family to know that our thoughts and prayers are with them. May Ashok’s soul rest in peace, and the family find solace in the special legacy he left behind. Much love, Sivaji / Bridget and the Ganguly family
    06/02/2023 02:32 am
    Ambika Srivastava writes,
    Ashok was warm , friendly, always very generous and welcoming. Enjoyed the time spent with him and Indu in Minneapolis and Danbury. He fought his health battles bravely and am sure his onward journey will be full of light and laughter. My prayers for his soul and for Indu , Arjun ,Aparna and Sean .May God grant them the strength to cope with this loss. Om Shanti 🕉
    06/02/2023 02:44 am
    Chitra Uttamsingh lit a candle and writes,
    I never had the pleasure of meeting Ashok nor the Kids but I loved Indira way back from our flying days and can never forget your smiling beautiful face My heartfelt condolences to all of you With you in your grief Chhitra
    06/02/2023 03:23 am
    Sabz lit a candle and writes,
    Wonderful memories of my visits with the family in Miami, Detroit and Delaware. Friendship and laughter! Thank you! Go in peace my friend Ashok knowing you were well loved and will be missed. Indira, Arjun, Aparna - my deepest condolences. And warm, healing hugs from many, many miles away.
    06/02/2023 03:52 am
    Gurmukh lit a candle and writes,
    Funny and amazing memories of our trips together in the sixties in India, which continued in the US until our last meeting of the Fab Four Salil, Kamal, Ashok and myself in Bethesda MD in April 2023. I will miss our long phone conversation about our life in madras, old Bollywood Movies and songs and of course cricket. Will miss you dearly Ashok🕉
    06/02/2023 09:18 am
    Bunty lit a candle and writes,
    I will always remember Ashok mausa with great fondness…Especially his love for Tacos! My last memory of him will always be chatting with him via video call, about 2 months ago ,and me telling him he was looking so Hansum ( Pronounced Handsome in Singapore) which he was and he was so happy to hear that! Rest in peace my dearest uncle you are not suffering anymore 💕 Lots of love and hugs and prayers to Indu Masi. Arjun, Aparna and Sean. May you have the strength to bear his loss and moving forward celebrate his legacy and life 💕
    06/02/2023 09:35 am
    Patricia Arroyo lit a candle and writes,
    My deepest sympathies and condolences to the Gupta family. Arjun is a dear friend of mine. Although I did not have the privilege of meeting his father, I felt that I began to know him through the loving stories Arjun shared, especially those about watching football together. With love and support during this time of heartbreaking loss.
    06/02/2023 11:25 am
    Darany An writes,
    I so sorry Arjun for your loss. My condolence to you and your whole family. May he Rest In Peace.
    06/02/2023 11:50 am
    Khyati Ruparelia lit a candle and writes,
    My Deepest sympathies and condolence to Arjun and his family
    06/02/2023 12:09 pm
    Keri Conlon writes,
    Arjun, I am so sorry for your loss. My deepest condolences to your entire family. Your Dad sounds like an amazing man, and will surely be missed by all. May he rest in peace. Sending love and strength.
    06/02/2023 12:24 pm
    Clarissa Diniz lit a candle and writes,
    Dear Gupta family. My most sincere condolences, I am very sorry for your loss. May you find peace and peace find you. Sending love.
    06/03/2023 11:00 am
    BIJAYA DHUNGANA lit a candle and writes,
    Dear Arjun, I am deeply saddened to learn about the passing of your father. Please accept my heartfelt condolences during this difficult time for you and your family. Wishing you strength, comfort, and peace in the days ahead.
    06/05/2023 08:36 am
    Panos lit a candle and writes,
    Dear Arjun. I am so saddened to hear about the loss of your father. Our family was fortunate to hear all the wonderful stories you shared about him whenever we met up in Boston. We wish your family peace and strength during this difficult time.
    06/05/2023 09:07 pm
    Kenisha Griffin lit a candle and writes,
    Dear Gupta Family, I want to send my deepest condolences to all of you. Over the past 14 years, I’ve always felt like I was part of the Gupta family. I wish I could have gave each of you a hug, but I was away on vacation when I heard the news. I am saddened to hear about the loss of a great husband, father, and grandfather . Sending you all the prayers in the world as you go through this tough time.
    06/06/2023 12:17 pm
    Vicki Marshall lit a candle and writes,
    Aparna and family, I am so sorry for the loss of your father, husband, grandfather, and friend. I lost my dad in 2014 and it's a feeling no one can understand unless they have been through it themselves. My heart goes out to you during this difficult time of grief. He is absolutely still with you and always will be. Energy never dies, it just takes another form.
    06/13/2023 11:21 am
    Edward Courtney writes,
    I only met Ashok once or twice and immediately sensed a gracious older soul with empathy and compassion and a gracious dignity. My extreme condolences to his family and friends who knew him beyond my incidental connection.
    06/13/2023 11:26 am
    Darlene lit a candle and writes,
    Ms. Indira, to say that I am sending my sympathies does not cover my sorrow for your loss! Sending all the love and strength I can for your journey forward! Much love to you and your family!!!
    06/13/2023 02:22 pm

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